“Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad.”
Before The Wedding
See what’s traditionally paid for by the groom’s family (what you actually pay for may vary).
Know the cost.
The average US wedding in 2012 (not including the honeymoon) was $25,656. The big ticket items include: venue, food, alcohol and the photographer.
Set your budget.
Decide what you feel comfortable spending, and review how the bride and groom can cut costs.
Be there for guests.
Assist with travel arrangements for out-of-town guests.
Get your attire.
Pick out a tux or suit (follow the choice of the groom and groomsmen). If they are getting suits, just be sure to match your tie with one or multiple wedding colors.
Attend pre-wedding events.
Depending on what the groom wants, you may or may not be invited to the groom roast or bachelor party. Regardless, you will go to the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner (traditionally hosted by the groom’s family).
Be ready for pictures.
Arrive 4 hours before the ceremony to get dressed (if you're planning to come dressed, then getting there at least 3 hours before the ceremony should be fine). The timing for pictures will depend on whether the bride and groom are going to see each other before or after she walks down the aisle. If they wait, then there will be more pictures right after the ceremony.
Get your boutonniere.
Someone will give this to you, just make sure it’s on your left lapel, stem down.
Take part in the receiving line (if applicable). This is where you shake hands and give hugs to guests as they exit the ceremony or enter the reception area.
Know how to enter.
You will be walking your daughter down the aisle.
Give her away.
Shake the groom’s hand, give her a kiss and take a seat next to your wife.
Be prepared to speak.
After everyone has had their dinner, you will be asked to give your toast to the bride and groom.
Get ready to dance.
The most important dance will be with your daughter (see song suggestions below), but you may also be asked to take part in a couples and/or anniversary dance.
Farther Daughter Dance Songs:
- A Song For My Daughter (Steve Moser, Mikki Viereck, Ray Allaire)
- A Whole New World (Peabo Bryson & Regina Belle)
- Butterfly Kisses (Bob Carlisle)
- Can You Feel The Love Tonight (Elton John)
- Cinderella (Steven Curtis Chapman)
- Daddy’s Girl (Peter Cetera)
- Daddy’s Hand (Holly Dunn)
- Daddy’s Little Girl (The Mills Brothers)
- Daughter (Loudon Wainwright III)
- Daughters (John Mayer)
- Father and Daughter (Paul Simon)
- Father’s Eyes (Amy Grant)
- Have I Told You Lately (Rod Stewart)
- Hold on my heart (Genesis)
- I Loved Her First (Heartland)
- In Your Eyes (Peter Gabriel)
- Isn’t She Lovely (Stevie Wonder)
- Just The Way You Are (Billy Joel)
- Landslide (Fleetwood Mac)
- My Girl (Temptations)
- My Little Girl (Tim McGraw)
- My Wish (Rascal Flatts)
- Somewhere over the Rainbow (Judy Garland)
- Sunrise, Sunset (Fiddler On The Roof – Sndtrk)
- Thank Heaven For Little Girls (Gigi)
- Then They Do (Trace Adkins)
- The Way You Look Tonight (Steve Tyrell)
- Through The Years (Kenny Rogers)
- Time to say goodbye (Andrea Bocelli & Sarah Brightman)
- Unforgettable (Nat King Cole/Natalie Cole)
- What A Wonderful World (Louis Armstrong)
- When You Say Nothing At All (Alison Krauss)
- Wild Flowers (Tom Petty)
After The Wedding
Take care of your attire.
Return your tuxedo/suit to the rental shop. If it was purchased, take it to the cleaners.