“Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the one you think you can't live without.”
— James C. Dobson (Christian psychologist)
Choose the right time of year.
Be sure to discuss with her the approximate time of year you want to be married.
Be sure to propose about 7-12 months prior to the ideal month you'd like to be married. There are many reasons why this much time is important, but a big one is accommodating for the time it takes to order/customize a wedding dress. Trust me, she will not be happy if there's no choice but to take what's on the rack.
Pick the right environment.
Determine if she’d want something public or private.
Determine who will be there.
You know her personality, so be sure to include family and/or friends if she would want them there.
Tell only those who need to know.
Keep it a surprise for as long as possible before you literally pop the question.
Consider getting some hired help... ask for:
-The costs related to time (flat fee or hourly)
-The hard costs (transportation, equipment rentals and other items)
-A complete understanding of your responsibilities
-A signed contract
-Assistance from a hotel concierge/maitre d' (if applicable)
-Resources: Brilliant Event Planning or Go Get It Events
Take notes from those that have gone before you (real proposal videos):
-Top Gun Style
-On A Game Show
-Making The Movies Jealous
-On Stage At A Concert
-Dancing In The Park
-A Billboard Style Mural
-On Live TV
-In The Middle Of Disneyland
-Staring In Your Own Movie
-A Serenade On The Subway
Do’s and Don’ts
DO follow tradition.
Ask one or both parents for her hand in marriage.
DO think of how she would want it done.
Be as sure as possible that the way you propose is going to be meaningful and memorable to her.
DO adjust for any potential conflicts.
Make sure her schedule is free both during and after your proposal.
DO account for any necessary clothing.
Make sure what she’s planning to wear is appropriate, or bring something along for her.
DO bring additional gifts.
Have flowers (we recommend red roses) and champagne.
DO tell only those who need to know.
On the day of your proposal, keep it a surprise for as long as possible.
DO be specific.
During your actual proposal, tell her exactly why you want to spend the rest of your life married to her, and be sure it’s done in a way she will understand and appreciate. You should also incorporate examples of why you love her, how having her in your life makes you a better person, and why you believe you’re so perfect for one another.
DO get in position.
Drop to one knee when you present the engagement ring.
DO say it all.
Say her full name right before you ask her to marry you.
DON’T propose too early.
It’s important to see how you both handle each other during and after some tough experiences.
DON’T do it in front of people.
Only do it publicly if you know that’s what she wants.
DON’T propose at a sporting event.
Even if she’s really into sports, this probably won’t have the level of romance she’s looking for.
DON’T steal attention from anyone.
Just celebrate their special event/day, and save yours for another time.
DON’T propose on a national holiday.
Only attempt this if it’s really creative/original.
DON’T hide the engagement ring in food or a drink.
It could be an awkward evening if she happens to swallow it.
- Where you first met
- Where you went on your first date
- Where you had your first kiss
- Where you first said “I love you”
- Where you first knew she was the one
- A place that has special meaning to both of you
- A favorite place you like to go together
- A meaningful romantic getaway destination that wouldn’t give away your proposal
Hire A Proposal Planner
Let our propsal planners help you make your marriage proposal something your bride will want to share with everyone for years!
Step 1: Introductary Meeting.
Here will get to know more about you, your fiancee, the relationship and set a budget.
Step 2: Brainstorming Sesson.
In this meeting we will share our ideas, and select the best one to implement.
Step 3: The Details.
In our final meeting, we will run through all the details to make sure everything is ready to go.
Step 4: Time For Action.
We will put everything into action, and set you up for an amazing marriage proposal.