The Groom's List

Real Stories: How Grooms Are Becoming Team Players In Their Wedding Planning

Posted: January 12, 2017

Recently, we asked real couples what their groom did to get involved with the wedding planning.  Here are the highlights of what we heard:

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Lisa (bride) writes: "He volunteered to do some of the planning and asked me to give him tasks.... I gave him more of the "logistic side" of things and I took the decorative side. When I say "logistics", he was responsible for the DJ, the groomsmen's tuxes and styles, the limousine for the girls and to get to the venue, for us after, the lodging for out-of-town guests and transport to and from the lodging for tipsy guests... We each did our sourcing and then presented our picks to the other for mutual approvals. We went around together to see the hall, the decorator and the DJ, etc for final decisions. That's how we worked it together."

Brooke (event planner) writes: "Over the past few years, I have seen grooms on the rise in their participation. They attend more meetings, offer more feedback and seem to want to be involved. They are often the CFO for the wedding and so it's a nice trend to see them more active."

Erin (bride) writes: Since our wedding was up in the mountains we wanted to take advantage of our surroundings and bring the outside in for the city slickers who were in attendance.... Together, we created centerpieces out of fallen birch we found hidden in the woods; place cards using pine cones we picked up on the campus of my husbands alma mater; put together gift bags for guests that included maps of the area and a few snackables; my husband created a playlist of music for the BBQ we hosted the night before the big day; he arranged all the transportation; came with me to the florist and helped make decisions on flowers and colors; searched for scrap booking paper with me that we then used to create cones to hang the flowers in the church; spray painted hooks we used to hang lanterns along the pathway; cut and burned the edges of the fabric we used as tablecloths; was heavily involved in the search for a photographer and more!  If we didn't work as a team on all the wedding related projects over the course of the summer leading up it, we wouldn't have had such a wonderful day and received as many compliments as we did from our family and friends. Good thing were each others ying and yang!"

Amy (bride) writes: "My soon-to-be-groom and I are working on everything together so we can plan our wedding exactly to our specifications. After being together for six months he proposed and within a week of the proposal we have booked the reception and ceremony venues, photographer, designed and ordered our save-the dates, and compiled our guest list....  Before any decisions are made we both double check with each other, but I do not consider our wedding to be a day about me and my wants, but what we want to have together!... Also he is in charge of all the tecky things: designing the website from scratch, keeping track of all the excel sheets, and lists and such."

Grooms, a wedding is THE single moment in time when you get to celebrate the love you have for your wife with a huge party, surrounded by the most important people in your lives. Enjoy the process, and look to us for all the information you’ll need each step of the way. Know that there really aren’t any rules that can’t be broken, only advice from those that have gone before you. This means you really are free to completely customize this day to fit your style and personality…. and spending more money doesn’t necessarily make it better. Just take it slow, and put your effort into hosting an event that will keep everyone saying: “Now that was a good time!”