It seems like every article I read about grooms getting involved in the wedding process automatically refers to them as a "Groomzilla". Well, last time I checked, the wedding was about two people giving up their singe lives to join together, as one, for a lifelong marriage commitment. So when a guy actually wants to take part in planning the celebration of this day, it's spun in a negative light... ie: Groomzilla. My question is this, why not help in the cause of making this process more of a team effort (it's not easy planning a wedding anyway), and encourage men who desire to step up and support their bride-to-be by calling these guys "Involved Grooms"?
Don't get me wrong, I know there are guys out there who can go crazy and take over (like a Bridezilla), but let's reserve the whole Groomzilla thing for those few. For the rest of the involved grooms out there, I truly feel it's important to lift up the kind of guy who sees planning for the first day of marriage just like he does the rest of it, as a team. To help define what a supportive and involved groom is verses a Groomzilla, here are some quick examples:
1. An involved groom helps to support his bride-to-be by gatheing a few quotes from various wedding vendors like DJs, Photographers and Wedding Officiants. A Groomzilla does not even consider the opinion of his bride-to-be, but instead picks the DJ, Photographer and Wedding Officiant he likes best.
2. An involved groom attends bridal shows and walks together with his bride-to-be interacting and sharing ideas/opinions. A Groomzilla bulldozes though and only wants their ideas/opinions heard and taken.
3. An involved groom is ready to help where he is needed, and even steps up and takes the lead with certain aspects of the wedding planning process. A Groomzilla takes control of the entire wedding, and decides what happens and what doesn't.
In the end, it really comes down to being a team player every step of the way. Although we do realize that this is going to look different for every couple, even grooms who are ready and willing to do 50% of what's needed to plan a wedding should be applauded and encouraged. To help grooms know how to get involved and to let brides know what their groom can do to support them, we've developed the groom's checklist. This checklist provides guidelines, within the wedding planning process, where the groom can do his part to support his bride-to-be and be that team player. This "team" philosophy can then provide the foundation in their relationship that will continue to benefit both of them throughout their marriage.